cona-opaths n; any female claiming minority status(usually, in order to thwart an enemy) even when there is absolutely no physical resemblance, or documented confirmation
cona-opaths; a female, ‘political psychopath’, who will stop at nothing in order to tear (especially her male, superior) an opponent down
Cona;cona f (pluralconas)
co; variant of ‘cu’
cu; a hoot
Cona is Portuguese vernacular for vagina. The most accurate English translation would be cunt. Apparently it's also a common italian last name and an italian town (near Venice). Levar na cona
opath- opathy. A suffix that denotes a disease or disorder, as in neuropathy (a disorder of the peripheral nerves).
psychopath; unstable, aggressive person
Can you believe this blue eyed, blonde haired, lady formally registered herself as a minority Indian??!!
Ya, well she’s what we Indians call a, 'cona-opaths',''half, dirty dog, half, Hungry wolf = dolfH ” ; a 'dolfH, Hitler’,psychopath, mixed with 'Standing Bull-shit' would reason that just because her father fantasized about having sex with younger Indian girls, it qualifies her to be Indian
apemanasan v(apeman-asan); to hit and run on a, hun (short for honey); irregular, lazy lover, chumpansy, monkey-ass, foreplay
Asturian and Spanish
asan, asar, to roast
asan; male donkey ass
to pester, to plague
chumpansy; the bitch in the relationship;
pansy; Someone who has the intelligence of a chimpanzee and makes stupid decisions
apemanasan; gorilla-arfware, foreplay; by a man who barely bothers to, shower or take his clothes off before intercourse, and after a quick, whambam, thankyou mam climax, rolls over, and goes to sleep
arf; Representing the sound of a dog's bark.
arf; Sometimes has the same connotations of sexual innuendo as woof.
Gorilla arf-ware; tactical sexual weapon that backfires
appsent-minded adj; absent minded, because of excessive multitasking between apps on phone, pc and other gadgets, causing ‘stimulation overload’, which further pushes the brain into overdrive making one to not only forget how to talk and focus but no longer able to enjoy the more simple organic activities in life such as visiting friends in person or just calling them to talk instead of text
appsent-minded; to pretend to pay attention to someone while holding a hand phone, texting or waiting for a text, rather than e.g, holding her hand, looking into her eyes, sincerely listening and hearing what she is trying to communicate to you
appsent-minded; consumate multitasker, which really only amounts to just, ‘splitting one’s own brain’ into what researchers have called, “spotlights”, making the brain frantically switch back and forth, focusing only a few seconds on each activity, thus being less productive
appsent-minded; multitasker, considered to be very bad because they are less productive and skills like filtering out irrelivent information declines
waz up my main man??
Ahh, not much, why did you want to meet and why are you talking so strange?
Well, I thought we should meet cause its been so long(about 6 months) since ive used my vocal cords, almost forgot how to talk, kinda forgot what my best friend and business partner looked like, and im multitasking so much, im becoming, “appsent-minded”, im actually seeing the spotlights in my splitted brain, like a fire-pinball game… We’re not accomplishing much because were relying more on machines than our own brain power which is making us less productive, dumb and numb to the world around us…
So what else is on your mind?
ashek Ittaqullah; a Turkish/Arabic phrase that doesn’t mean;
“I shake-itwith-tequila!!!, like a drunken prostitute, it means……
Ashek!‘be bright’ (be smart, not a dumb, light, 'air-head', bangpire, bar fliar)
Ittaqullah!‘fear God’, embrace the spirit of love and be faithful (not the spirit of slamming back shots of tequila, while leading a reckless sex life
The husband tries to explain to the wife the real meaning of Ashek-Ittaqullah.......
Husband: " Sweetheart Im sorry but youve been a flight attendant now for almost 10 years, you're gone flying around the world most of the time, so i think its about time you quit and come home to your husband and 3 kids, we miss you and need you
Wife; How dare you request such a thing from me!!? You were the one who left me 5 times every week, and before you left the house every morning you would tell me you were going to 'shake it-with tequila, drinking with girls all day.... ive just been doing the same thing you have but just around the world, with men!
Husband: Baby!! First of all, I was going to the office, to work, you know provide for the family as we do? And, when I said, "Ashek Ittaqulah" it was to remind you to, be smart, fear God, love your husband and kids, and be faithful!! You are a Muslim you know.
Wife; Oops, my bad, I guess, but your timing is not so good bb, ive just been hired by the new airline, Girludah-Air and was already personally promoted to the Mile-High, 'Tight Afflendant' club, by Captain Spitt himself, in his, super cool, Bad Spitt cock-Pitt, which means I get to wear a sexier, tighter fitting, uniform and visit more exotic countries etc, and i cant just quit like that, Id have to first break up with all my "Foreign friends, with benefits" if you know what i mean, (they've earned a lot of miles with me), I couldnt do that to them, you know im a nice girl!!
Husband; I think its time for a divorce
Wife; What did I do this time honey!!?? You know i cant cook!!? ....
awinr n(a winner); Not just 'a winner', but an exemplary ‘inner winner’, awinr in another class
The most ‘unique’ awe inspiring, well liked kind of self made winner, in business, family, and in all aspects of life
‘awinr’; aka, ‘inner winner’, is a master of psychological tactics in business and life using the most powerful performing enhancer of all, his ‘inner winning mind’; with supreme levels of confidence, commitment and self discipline and an innate ability to put himself into any state of mind desired within seconds, can maintain concentration and focus coping with stress and tention, all while being able to relax and enjoy the finer things in life.
But what makes awinr most unique is his love for family, he never forgets his friends and where he came from, has empathy for those less fortunate, and is constanty, mentally aware of his surroundings as ‘awinr’ always sees it coming.
Man that guy is really successful, and he's such a great guy too! how does he do it!!?
He's a 'awinr', no one quite like him"
bahlwerg v,n; to leave a ball game early and miss an amazing comback usually because of a lack of faith in one's team
bahlwerg; to blame someone else for having to leave an event too early, especially blaming the youngest of kin
bahlwerg; to jump the gun and miss the fun
1. An exclamation of disgust: yuck
indicates astonishment, resignation and despise; usually used after noticing or hearing something you don't like or you don't know what to think about, to avoid commenting or giving an answer to a question.
1. indicates disdain or unbelief
Word Origin and History for bah
exclamation of contempt, 1817, perhaps c.1600, probably from French bah, Old French ba, expressing surprise, scorn, dismay. Perhaps simply a natural exclamation in such situations; cf. Greek babai!, an exclamation of surprise.
WERG; short for; We R Going
Alright ive had enough, werg!! werg!!! were out of here, we have no chance to comeback
But daddy it aint over til its over, don’t do another “bahlwerg” on me again!! jumpin the gun and missin the fun!!??
You look sick and I miss Ted, lets beat the traffic and get you off to bed
Ok dad but if they comeback and win its on you and Ted, so how bout you go ahead instead cause im a loyal fan, im not a jump the gun, bahlwerg, teddy goober!! so I think i'll just wait until the game is over and then ill take an uber !!!
Bangpire; a ‘Dev-ill’ in disguise(see bux fuddy) a lady of the night and or day(originating from the Bangpire Bats gang of CJ's bar Mula-iya! and 'Bats' Shag-rilah' hotels of Indonesia, ) much worse than any vampire because they are very real and unlike vampires they don’t want your blood, they want the guy to suck their blood and are extremely clever with tricking the guy into drinking the bangpires first blood taste like a powerful potion that conjures a spell the guys will feel theyre falling in love when theyre really on their way to cinta(love) monyet(monkey) hotel hell
bangpire; when a girl, especially a prostitute, seduces or tricks a guy into bed without warning the guy before he continues and when its too late even though he notices the red in bed the spell compells him to go ahead
A bangpire will play guys into an emotional feel by banging and mashing them down, destroying love and taking hearts is a bangpires favorite thing to steal
batam-eters v; to be-cum-quam(in with a certain way, especially a balanced degree) staying young(bata) by way of natural, medicinal, activities proven to rejuvenate, usually things that some still consider to be taboo improper, immoral, or evil
batam-eter; a master at eating, drinking and leading a merrily wild, balanced cum-quam, healthy, lifestyle
batam-eter; one who shines, a youthful glow, energetic and extremely happy
‘bata’ (young,youthful) ‘m’(medicinal, i.e master-bater, mouth/muff-kissing, meditate, massage, medicate, medical marijuana, magical mushrooms
bata; young, sweetheart, to persevere; to endure, to bear
to grow young again; to be rejuvenated
ba (plural bas)
to be (doing something)
Imitating a drum roll and cymbal crash played as a comic sting.
Suffix appended to words to create a kinship term
ba-dongadong; slang, penis and breast
ba da bing, ba da boom
An exclamation describing something that happens quickly and easily : went in to get a tattoo—ba da bing, ba da boom
his mind teeming with schemes of future deceit to cover former villainy
Risk is everywhere. From tabloid headlines insisting that coffee causes cancer (yesterday, of course, it cured it) to stern government warnings about alcohol and driving, the world is teeming with goblins.
To think fit
eter; to eat
et; to set out for; to strive'
et; beans, meat, and amperstand, the number ‘8’ Chinese lucky number
Hey whats that happy sexy couples secret, how do they keep looking so young!!
Theyre 'batam-eters', healthy balanced, thrill seekers, not filthy naysaying bottom feeders, theyre on a constant physical and spiritual adventure
bathers-klite n; premeditated excuse, before being asked out on a date
a deliberate hint, to turn a date down with a lame excuse
bathers-klite v; a scramble to avoid an obvious jabberwocky
klite; a polite, 'klutsen', plight; a get away from a rambling kluts
klutsen; to scramble or get away
So whats up with you this weekend?
Oh, aah, a lot, i gotta shave my doggy's butt tonight"
belshu!; to bless a belcher for not letting it go out the other end; something to say instead of awkward silence after someone belches! Because we bless people for "snotpaneously"
(spontaneously sneezing) out their germs on us so why not bless a belcher
belch; emit gas noisily from the stomach through the mouth.
oh no thank you for not letting it out the other end
A 'bi-trumpissan' vs 'bi-pratisan' Party
= kissing your ass =respect
bi-trumpissan; the stronger party winners, who turn the 'pissing contest' into a 'kissing conquest', bi-kicking-ass
pissing contest; a contest or rivalry in which the main concern of the parties involved is the conspicuous demonstration of superiority.
Victory gained through combat; the subjugation of an enemy.
the winning of favor, affection, love, etc
the act or art of gaining a person's compliance, love, etc, by seduction or force of personality
a person, whose compliance, love, etc, has been won over by seduction or force of personality
Etymology: 13th Century: from Old French conqueste, from Vulgar Latin conqu?sta (unattested), from Latin conqu?s?ta, feminine past participle of conqu?rere to seek out, procure; see conquer
trump; beat (someone or something) by saying or doing something better
a valuable resource that may be used, especially as a surprise, in order to gain an advantage
bi-pratisan; AKA bi-asskissin = your, "little beatch bender"
dependent, most irritating, least intimidating, bi-kissing ass, party
a pusillanimous, sub-par-sittin, presidential, ass-kissin puppetry administration; displaying only mastering the art of political lip service, while wandering about golf courses, as the most, ‘asstute’, prat talking, arrogant speaker, a party has even seen
PRA; President, Royal Asskisser
PRA: ‘Puppet Reared, Asskissenger’
tis; it 'tis' what it is, and what it is, is, a ‘trifle’, ass-kissin party
bi-pratisan; a ‘rat-pissin’ (allowing to be pissed upon by enemy rats) party, legacy no better than ‘parsittin’(sitting, goffer, golfer)
bi-pratisan; a dark, dull, insignificant, tar-pissin party (first African American to take a pissing contest)bent-over chicken style, ‘bi-ass-kissin’
‘Pratsident of the United States; Little beach bender(eg of the United States or any country with a prat for a president)
1. used with op) focused, bent, fixated
A pride, arrogance
prat; hope for
From Middle English prat, from Old English præt, prætt (“trick, prank, craft, art, wile”), from Proto-Germanic *prattuz (“boastful talk, deceit”), from Proto-Indo-European *brodno- (“to wander about”). Cognate with Saterland Frisian prat, Dutch pret (“fun, pleasure, gaity”), obsolete Dutch prat (“cunning, strategem, scheme, a prideful display, arrogance”), Low German prot, Norwegian prette (“trick”), Icelandic prettur (“a trick”). Related to pretty.
Obama; Origins. Luo word Obama means "to bend".
Obama is also a Japanese surname literally meaning "little beach".
The Luo dialect, Dholuo (pronounced [d?ólúô]) or Nilotic Kavirondo (pejorative colonial term), is the eponymous dialect of the Luo group of Nilotic languages, spoken by about 6 million Luo people of Kenya and Tanzania, who occupy parts of the eastern shore of Lake Victoria and areas to the south.
hip hip PRAy!! hip hip PRAy!!! Keep on Trumpissan all the way!!
You mean hip hip hurray!!??
Ya, but PRAy, like, 'pray' as in pray that we never have a PRATisan, little beatch-bending party, ever again!
bi-trumpissan adj; Independent, most intimidating and powerful biconic party of one, leader of the pee world; president with the best chance to help end the, ‘pissin-brata’, perpetual political pissing contests that waste time and money
bi-conic; bionic, independent partisan-icon, the real live super-man leader that so many people are afraid and jealous of
bi-trumpissan; what a country gets when electing an independent President who is not beholden to either party or any rules of engagement
bi-trumpissan; A party where the bigger person; Trump, with or without dems support, forges ahead a unifying language that goes way beyond policy debates, and pissing competitions
bi-trumpissan; a president’s relentless effort to reach out to, and govern a swamp of Trump hating partisanship, brats (the real bully) who continue to neglect, with noses up, to do the job they are paid to do which is to serve the American people, while encouraging both parties to set aside their differences and collaborate on policy challenges from health care to immigration
bi-trumpissan; party leadership, that can drastically reduce the wasteful practice of party politician, ‘pissing contests’ aka GOPee-Pee-ers
bi-trumpissan; Trump leadership (at its worst, rocking a swampy pirate ship that pisses off hard lined progressives, repubes and democraps, e.g Mit romney and Maxine Waters, witch hunters who were not only already pissed off at the get go but are also constantly, ‘taking a piss’ on the President of the, “United” States of America, but never phasing the Donald J Trump drive
bi-trumpissan; a savior and blessing, independent party of one; the first ever, non-politician, no puppet strings attached, president, best fit to lead by example
bi-trumpissan; a party that will make sure both sides start pissing in the right direction, in order for all Americans to ‘win’ because it will take someone like, Trump to finally incinerate (end by firing) the usual, bipartisan, ‘compee-trition’(the attrition from pissing competitions) bickering that’s been pissing away American’s hard earn money into the ‘wind’…..
But of course, the hard, left, Trump haters and fake news media who fail miserably every time to destroy him would still try to, negatively spin sound bites of a good thing, like Trump finally, ‘breaking’ the government’s practice of throwing money into the ‘wind’ by accusing Trump of, ‘breaking wind’, wasting gas, eroding the ozone layer and causing a global warming catastrophe that will end the world as we know it. But then maybe the vexing left will finally really leave the building(the white house) for good, complaining about inheriting Trumps ‘wind’, whereas, the righteous, right’s reaction, would obviously be to stay and celebrate inheriting the ‘win’.
"True love for our people requires us to find common ground, to advance the common good, and to cooperate on behalf of every American child who deserves a brighter future."……..
….we can only get there together, We are one people, with one destiny. We all bleed the same blood. We all salute the same flag. And we are all made by the same God." DONALD J TRUMP
blowgart; What to say to a sexy girl on her birthday while she blows her candles out
blowgart; When a sexy girl is slow to share a joint or bong with someone, so instead of saying 'dont bogart' you say. 'dont blowgart'
blowgart v; to bogart a blow job, usually seen in adult film threesome scenes
hey bambi, dont blowgart!!
Ok, thumper, heehee, youre right, sharing times a happy time!
Bluecifer; the new red hot blue; anyone, or anything fantastically, ‘cool and hot’, a perfect synergistic balance of anything, design, color, products, personalities, looks etc e.g a ‘red hot design made, ‘bluecifer’, much better with just the right amount of ‘blue’
Dude that shirt is beyond red-hot, its ‘bluecifer’!!
blu; shy, unassuming
bonetrak; aksi penyelamatan terhadap penculikan anak-anak
bonetrak; rescue action against child abduction
BO; Brain Overload
BO; Beyond Ourselves
bon; to shine
trak; (pronounced as : “track”; the direction and progress of someone or something)
TRAK ; Technology to Recover Abducted
See, bro have the man kidnap a child..
‘Letsmaa’…‘bonetrak’ to safe the child..!!
Call the police please, bro…?!
bongle doob; aka, ‘dopnophile’, a person who is enthusiastic about anything to do with weed, bongs, doobs and fast food
a bongle doob is also enthusiastic about technology but is too lazy too keep up with the latest trends
bongle; any device, apparatus or thing related to weed, bongs and doobies; to smoke too many bong hits that one bungles an entire day
doob; to smoke a doobie in front of the boobtube
bungle; carry out (a task) clumsily or incompetently, leading to failure or an unsatisfactory outcome. a mistake or failure, typically one resulting from mismanagement or confusion
buljezen n,v; love that doesn’t put up with bullshit; angry with someone you love which means you actually love them
buljezen; love from one who has the courage to keep a lover in check by setting boundries incredibly well
buljezen is the kind of love one is attracted to in a person not only because of their sharp wit but the strength they have to reign in on poor behavior, keeping one morally in check which in turn makes a person stronger and better
buljezen is love from friends who call you out on stuff if they feel it’s bullshit and that’s more attractive and appealing than having friends who just ‘yes’ you to death
JE; Just Energy, Joint Effort
Zen; a wisdom tradition, derived from the Chinese word chan and Sanskrit dhyana, which means meditation, and the root meaning in Sanskrit is to see to observe, to look; to not deny the anger but to handle it properly
Im sorry I got angry with you last night honey!
Its ok babe, buljezen, i deserved it, you don’t put up with my bull which is actually pretty cool and another reason why I love you
bux fudy bar flie; (originating from, cj’s bar, “Mula-iya!” and Bats “Shag-rilah”, jakarta)
bux fudy bar flie; bar fly girls who actually end up looking like actual ‘flies’, “filling” heads, with ‘lies’, while they hypnotize you with their fire of desire, aka ‘bangpire’, a spell that can make lies fly
flies; filling heads with lies
flie; a lie that wont fly
bux fudy; menopausal nymphomaniac; a sexual vampire, unleashed after years of sexual fidelity; the most devi-stating, sexually powerful, skilled and sought out for kind of prostitute who is more interested in the, ‘bux’(bule-expat sex, and thrill of the experience, not all the experiences of course) and the endless parade of unimaginable pleasure than any money she may get from it, although a bux fuddy will always say they only do the sex biz for the money which is just an excuse
Profile of a bux fudy bar fliar
A bux fudy is devastatingly sexy and insatiable at the bar. An overly sexual, bar-fly, nympho female, usually, middle aged, divorced mothers with flabby mommy tummies, who pick up many strange men every week in hotel bars, giving a lot of unprotected, xxx, ‘bux’(bule-expat-sex) sex with strange foreign men, many times for free which is why a bux fudy is usually in debt
A bux fuddy enjoys(addickshun) to being a prostitute so much they can never quit, even if offered a way out, in order to quit that lifestyle, including a regular job that pays better, or even if someone offered their hand in marriage, they would rather buck any offer in order to keep on buxing like a prostitute
A bux fudy will insist she’s not a pathological prostitute and that she doesn’t like having sex with strange men every week and that she desperately wants to get a husband. However, she’ll use the excuse that no one will want a widow with kids. But the real reason a bux fuddy will never try to get another job is simply because she doesn’t want to. She’ll say she’s either too old or that there are no jobs available or shell make up any lame excuse for not trying.
A bux fuddy will lead a guy on, making him feel sympathetic towards her in order to get as much sex and romance as she can out of him because that is really what she’s after. And no matter what the client offers to help her quit being a prostitute, she will buck and block any offer in order to continue to be a common bar fly prostitute. She actually doesn’t want a permanent man even if it would make things somewhat less hotel like
Its the hunt, the catch and the wild bux sex, is what a bux fudy girl most desires and is why she doesn’t demand that much money for the sex. And sometimes, she won’t accept any money in order to make her feel as if she’s leading a normal life. And if she picks up a certain top performing guy who has the most time to satisfy her the way she wants it, she will bux him for months for free until the bule-expat finally realizes she actually has no intention of ever quitting having sex with many other strange men every week.
A bux fuddy only wants enough money to pay for nasi goreng and occasional movie tickets for her kids who have no idea that mommy is a bux fudy, bar fly, bangpire, addick, and will always be a bux fudy, as long as she can attract the bux, but as soon as the looks are gone, the bux stop there.
bux; bucks from bule-expat sex
BUX; Bule-expat Sex
BUX; Buck Up Xpat(to make a foreigner happy in order to get laid )
bucks; oppose or resist (something that seems oppressive or inevitable)
bucks; to make someone more cheerful; cheer up, pick up, take heart, perk up
fud; (vulgar) cunt(vagina), an idiot
dude i wanta marry her, im serious!
Dont even go there bro, shes a bux fudy bar fliar! They are like homeless jobless people who live on the street and even if you give them a job, a home and your love, they will be right back on the street homeless again because its in their blood, just like bux fudy bar fliars, they fill your head with lies and hypnotize and then youl see they arent so pretty, they end up looking like nasty flies, and then youll see right through their 'flies'
buylylu n;(buy-lie-loo) money can buy fake, materialistic ‘love and affection’; unrequited love; one sided, love not recipricated or returned in kind
buylylu v; to buy love and affection; an attempt to attract someone with money or favors; usually from a man trying to keep a woman attracted to him
buylylu; aka; Nice Guy Manipulation; for a guy to buy love and affection known to lure some women for only short periods of time
buylylu; the idea that some women will allow men to do anything for them, giving money doing favors but it wont make them change how they feel about the man, and wont make the man more attractive because money cannot buy attraction
buy; to pay for, using money or favors
ly; to suffer
lu; luo; I wash, i cleanse, purge, i expiate, i pay, i suffer, i satisfy, to cut off, seperate, free
Note: A great relationship requires, great communication skills and shared value of self worth among many other things
Did you hear what happened to pongky?
He asked his buylylu lover if she would still love him if he didnt give her money
What did she say?
She said sure she would still love him but she would miss him too
LOL!! buylylu dong!!, luv that only last until the money is gone
bye uolls! n, used in parting during a conversation to confirm all is 'OK', express good wishes, and to give 'blessings'
literally; " 'ok, 'olls korrect', so goodbye to you all, with 'blessings' "
And then you can blow most peoples mind by telling them the origin of "OK", Ever wonder why we say, "OK'?
cakau n,v('choc' 'au') naughty or disorderly with chocolate
Caka; to be content, to shine
Caka, untuk menjadi konten, untuk bersinar
chosen one ... derived from Arabic origins ... form of Chakir
au; I, me, my.
ou; An exclamation of awe and surprise; wow.
au; I, me
Oh my astaga!!!?? cakau cakau!!??
ya daddy, cakau! cakau! heehee!!
A : Let's go for a drink later.
B : Sorry mate! Camet. I feel so tired after being stucked in traffic jam in Jakarta.
carah adj; (pronounced, ‘cha-rah’) a mix from the bahasa indonesian words, “marah” + “cinta”
carah; marah(angry) dari (from) cinta(love), ‘angry from love’
carah; crazy in love, marah(anger); to be angry at someone you regard as precious, the angrier one is, the more love they have for them
kalau tidak ada marah lagi, tidak ada cinta
If one is carah at the one they love, and then able to apologize for being,
A ‘Crazy, Angry, Rude, Ass, Hater’ which actually equals to = ‘love’, as the word, ‘cara’, actually means ‘love’ and “friend” in Irish, its hoped that they will be forgiven by the one who is hurt and ‘marah’(angry) and can at least still be friends with the one who lost it and got crazy in love, ‘carah’,
cha; weeping, crying
chayamuy is a Quechua word
(Runasimi / Qhichwa simi) Quechua is an Amerind language with about 8 million people in Bolivia, Peru, Ecuador, Colombia and Argentina. Quechua was the language of the Inca empire which was destroyed by the Spanish in the 16th century.
RAH: Ribut Arse-Hole
As so you ask for forgiveness, for nothing in return
Cara is a female given name of Latin or Irish origin.t has been frequently used mostly in recent times, especially in the 1970s 1980s and 1990s. Kara, the alternative spelling, is from the Cornish word, meaning love.
Cara also means friend in Irish language
When love involves an initial state of bliss, it can later make you feel sick or crazy whether or not the object of your affection has left your life. Bliss is an emotion that people seek. A surge of extreme pleasure and rapture is felt when it is activated, and you seem to transcend your self or merge with another person. Bliss is often felt as love, sensory or sexual pleasure, anticipation of high excitement, or a meditative state (Ekman, 2003). Perhaps its evolutionary purpose was to attach people together regardless of rational thinking. When a blissful state is experienced, such as in an intense romantic encounter, the craving and need to recreate it can be powerful.
Some people are tempted to compare a current long-term relationship with one that potentially can activate, or has activated, a blissful state involving sensual pleasure. Comparing a person with whom you have had a long-term relationship to someone new, unavailable, or forbidden who activates bliss in you makes a reasonable assessment impossible. Psychophysiological responses that are commonly experienced in those who are possessed by new love include highly pleasurable experiences of euphoria and increased energy (Fisher, 2000). Bliss-triggering attraction is associated with altered brain chemistry such as increased levels of dopamine and norepinephrine, and decreased levels of serotonin, all of which return to normal levels between 6 and 18 months into a relationship (Fisher, 2000; Marazzitti, Akiskal, Rossi, & Cassano, 1999).
Longing to be with the one with whom you anticipate experiencing a blissful state leads to thinking that is obsessive and distracted. I've seen many people in my practice who are lovesick because they cannot be with the object of their passion for any number of reasons. Most of the time it is because the one they profess to love happens not to be the person with whom they are partnered or is someone who is inaccessible at the time. In such cases, being lovesick is a state of being caught up in the fantasy that the passionate love they experience in stolen moments can exist forever in reality. Stolen moments in a blissful state, such as in an affair, simply create physiological responses perpetuating a belief that, in the long term, the impossible is probable. Eventually, however, it can make you sick or crazy even though it begins on an intensely positive note.
Although I have not conducted a formal study, decades of clinical experience has convinced me that a variety of situations having to do with blissful love can produce emotional and physical illness. I am most struck by the confluence of autoimmune disorders when people are involved in blissful relationships that are wrought with conflict and ambivalence. At one moment the partner is sacred and the object of a blissful experience, yet the next moment he or she is the trigger for anger and pain. I don't have proof, and such proof would be difficult to obtain, that such love makes people sick. Nevertheless, I have witnessed numerous accounts in my practice of people who become sick from a blissful love relationship that is intermittent or has turned bad, particularly in those who are involved with narcissistic partners.
Addictions and relapse from addictions are not uncommon in those who are in an intensely blissful but conflicted relationship, or in those who are attempting to recover from one. Longing, grief, anger, shame, or guilt represent emotions that may be activated in the aftermath of a relationship that was colorfully painted by bliss. Addictions mask the pain of an ambivalent relationship or from the loss of bliss, and they hide the longing to experience the blissful state again. In her research on the neurological effects of withdrawing from a romantic (blissful) relationship, Helen Fisher (2004) demonstrated that such experiences ignite regions of the brain that are similar to withdrawal from a cocaine addiction.
Such illness is not limited to the romantic pair, but can also extend to a partner who is neglected or devalued because a known or unknown third party infiltrates the partnership. Imagine, for example, a married man who is involved with a woman other than his wife. Although consciously his wife may not be aware of the existence of the other woman she will unconsciously pick up cues because she is treated differently by her husband, and because he behaves differently, in spite of his efforts to do otherwise. Unconsciously or consciously people become aware of infidelity. They may not want to acknowledge the indicators but their blood pressure may rise or their immune system may become compromised. They may also suddenly pay attention to, or engage, the wandering partner when previously their attention was waning.
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People also become sick of themselves when they are addicted to intermittent blissful experiences in a relationship. They make excuses to themselves, as well as to their friends and people who do love them, in order to stay in a relationship that is also disturbing or disruptive to them. Intermittent bliss in such situations may be the most lethal of doses. It is reminiscent of an early experimental psychology study about intermittent reinforcement; in this case, regarding pigeons who received a food pellet when they pecked on a red dot. Those who learned to expect the delivery of a pellet at consistent intervals limited their pecking. However, when a food pellet was delivered intermittently and unpredictably, the pigeons frantically and crazily pecked at the dot. When it comes to seeking bliss, humans may not be any more evolved than pecking pigeons. As a result, the craving for blissful love can make you sick or crazy.
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This blog is in no way intended as a substitute for medical or psychological counseling. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Ekman, P. (2003). Emotions revealed: Recognizing faces and feelings to improve communication and emotional life. New York: Holt.
Fisher, H. (2000). Lust, attraction, attachment: Biology and evolution of the three primary emotion systems for mating, reproduction, and parenting. Journal of Sex Education and Therapy, 25(1), 96-104.
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